Choosing Happiness

I am a recovering bulimic Chinese American woman. 

Over the years, I’ve been learning to love myself and realizing that beauty shouldn’t be held to a standard. I’ve met countless other Asian women that struggle with the concept of the Perfect Asian Woman, aka thigh gap, porcelain skin, and petite.  

To be quite frank, there is no such thing as the Perfect Asian Woman/Man. We need to stop comparing ourselves to freaking KPOP stars or Asian celebrities that happen to fit this “perfect Asian” bill. 

For the first time in a long time, I feel okay with myself. I’m tan, bridge-less nosed, and quite curvy Asian woman. Granted that I am a quarter Spanish, i still embrace all of me. I can honestly say that I love myself better now than I have before. 

I am not perfect, but because I’m not I am so much happier and feel more freedom from stereotypes and preconceived notions of what an Asian person should look like. 

Whenever I’m at family reunions and my aunt or uncle say to me,

“Hey you got a little chubbier!”

Now, I can proudly and boldly retort back,

“Hell yeah I did and you can go f**k yourselves because I am beautiful despite my weight. You are setting a disgusting example for your children and those around you. Stop body bashing and making weight take precedence over the other qualities your children and loved ones have to offer.”

I am beautiful and I am more than the number on the scale. I know it has taken me a while but I want to shout it to the world that I am happy with who I am and that we as people should stop pointing out peoples’ flaws and magnify their strengths instead.  

I guess what I’m trying to say is that I want every man and woman to be able to realize that they are so much more than what people say and how they feel. 

I’ve chosen to be healthy, but more importantly happy.

I know it’s a hard road to follow but I know that everyone can choose to be happy. 


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